With Valentine’s Day around the corner – *takes a deep breath* – we’ve decided to put our heads together and conjure up the most important dos and don’ts for a date night.
Whether you’re in a relationship, casually dating or a newbie to the Valentine’s Day fiasco, here are our humble hints and pointers that are sure to help your Valentine’s date (or any date, at that) go a little bit smoother.
Do you know how many people forget when Valentine’s day even is? And it’s only one, universal date. Think how many people forget simple date dates or anniversaries.
New love interest or not, forgetting the date (asking ‘When is our anniversary, again?‘ is the same thing) is, quite frankly, awkward. So, if memory isn’t your thing, put a reminder in your phone to avoid looking blatantly ignorant.
It’s hard to forget the day if it’s planned together and, genuinely, this will always be the case; a surprise date is borderline creepy. If it’s Valentine’s Day in question, take note of how busy restaurants and bars are. Make sure you book in advance if you’re planning on going somewhere for food*.
If this is any other date, be sure to organise a time and place (at the least) with the other person. It’s worth making sure they’re happy with a ‘surprise’ if that’s the direction you’re going in, too.
Dinner, for most, is far too intense for a first date. If you end up having nothing in common/to talk about, you’ll regret having committed to starters and mains. Try something more adventurous and interactive – it’s much easier to get to know them better this way and you’ll for sure have something to talk about.
‘It’s the thought that counts’ rings true in regards to date planning. Whether it’s making your own [Valentine’s] card, cooking their favourite dinner, or taking them on a well-thought-out date, allows your personality to shine through.
Standing up when they arrive (after you), knowing what’s appropriate to wear and being comfortable corking a bottle of wine are musts for every dinner date. These are the basics and once learned will serve you for a lifetime. If you’re not clued up, google it.
Yes, the football might be on and you may want to get minute-by-minute updates, but ditch the phone for the night, you’ll thank us later. Showing an interest in your date is essential; your phone can take a back seat for now. Oh, also, it’s obnoxious.
Valentine’s Day specific, don’t stress about going all out and breaking the bank on material goods. It is fine, however, to get something small… more as a gesture. As mentioned earlier, a well-thought-out date will go a long way. Failing that, if you’re a couple who like to keep things on the DL, agree to do something together. Been talking about a holiday recently? How about a new coffee table? It’s a present to each other, easy.
We don’t mean to sound rude, but it’s not. Playing Narcissus for the night won’t impress anyone. Instead, pay attention to your date and take an interest in them. Talk about yourself, sure, just make sure it’s balanced.